Many of my clients are first-timers in the world of astrology, tarot and soul readings and I’m extremely grateful that they took a leap of faith to work with me. A number of them shared that when they started exploring this realm, it was confusing (so much jargon!), somewhat scary (I don’t want to be scammed) and weird (hmm, am I’m comfortable talking to a complete stranger about my personal stuff?!).
So here are a few things to consider before you buy a reading:
1. Are you ready?
No matter how amazing or powerful or in-depth a reading is supposed to be, if you’re not in a state of receptivity, it cannot serve you well.
This DOES NOT mean that:
– you accept everything you hear
– you don’t question what you hear
– you do whatever the reader says
It means the doors to your heart and mind are slightly ajar.
That you are open to possibilities.
To exploring ideas.
You know what, I cannot emphasise this enough:
Readings are TOOLS.
They are methods of gathering information for CONSIDERATION and ANALYSIS.
They do NOT EVER tell you HOW to walk Your Path.
They offer you starting points. (Okay, I’ll let up on the caps now :P)
It doesn’t have to be a 100% ‘yes’, but if you can’t muster a ‘probably’ or ‘possibly’ to this question, you can pretty much skip the rest of the questions.
2. Does the reader resonate with you?
When you visit the reader’s website, read what they write, does it click with you?
Do you like the way things are presented? Do you like the style and tone of the writing?
Does it make you go, “Mm, there’s something interesting I could explore here”?
If you don’t understand what they write, or what they are trying to say, it is not that you lack the knowledge. It’s not your area, you’re not expected to know! Find someone you find easy to understand.
If somehow, for whatever reason, logical or not, they make you wrinkle your nose, furrow your brows, or throw up a little, move on. You’re not a good fit. At least not right now.
Whatever it is, absolutely, 100% trust your gut feeling on this.
3. Choose a suitable reading.
What do you want from your reading?
Do you have something specific to ask? Something you want to work on?
Is there a special occasion? Or is it life in general?
As I’d mentioned, readings are tools. How effective a tool is, depends on how it is used. No one uses a hammer to crack open an egg, know what I mean?
My personal take:
- Akashic Record readings – for a high level overview of who you are and your life (e.g. soul purpose, innate gifts, life lessons), investigating energetic blocks in general or for specific situations (you’ve tried all the logical/obvious things and nothing seems to work)
- Birth/Natal charts – for greater self-awareness in more concrete terms (e.g. what nurtures/drives/annoys you, your communication style etc)
- Solar Return charts – to look at the birthday year ahead (best done a month or two before your next birthday)
- Relationship/Synastry charts – to understand the energetic flow between two people and the energy of the relationship itself
- Timing charts – to find good/suitable timings, usually for a good start
- Tarot readings – to get a general overview for a period of time, to explore options for a specific situation, to look at the energy flow between people or in a situation for that point in time
That’s about all the different situations I can think of at the moment. Leave a comment if you have any questions! 🙂
What about you? What do you look out for when you’re looking for a reader?
Here’s my current definition:
“Signs are random happenings that carry obvious, deeper meanings which make sense only to me, in the context of my life experiences, or in relation to my questions / challenges / intentions at that particular point in time.”
What a mouthful, right? But this definition makes it easier for me to quickly decide if something was a sign. What would *your* definition be? Tweak this, or experiment and see what works for you.
Ask for A Sign
I used say, “I need a sign!”, then feel really disappointed (and silly) cos nothing would happen. Strangely, now that I’ve figured it out, I say it a lot less.
Two reasons – first, I decided to trust myself more, instead of waiting for some sign. Secondly, if I truly am in a dilemma, I get proactive and ask for the signs.
The important bit lies in HOW you ask for the signs.
By the way, before we get into it…
The point of learning how to recognise, and ask for signs, is not about focusing on signs, or waiting for them, or looking out for them anywhere and everywhere. This is simply another tool for us to use in our lives.
And even when you do get a sign, you have to do something about it! I don’t mean to be a wet blanket, but a sign is not a magic bullet 😉 Anyway, have fun experimenting with this!
1. What is the sign you want to see/hear/experience?
This is your event marker.
The more familiar you are with the specific symbols that show up in your life, the easier it is to decide. For me, it’s been the fox, the crow/raven and the moth. Even if you don’t have any in mind, just randomly decide on something you don’t usually come across in your daily life, and assign it.
2. When do you want to see it by?
This is your deadline.
The shorter the better. I usually give it 24 hours or till the end of the day, whichever feels right. Having a deadline gives you a cut-off point to stop looking out for the sign. And if you get the sign within that time, you get to feel completely awed by the Universe.
3. Use a statement like this:
If (action) is in the highest good of all, please let me see, hear, or somehow experience (event marker(s)) before (deadline).
Play with different permutations of your request. Go with what feels right.
4. Finally, release your request to the Universe / God / Source.
Go do something else, run errands, whatever, the main thing is to get on with your life. Not releasing your request is like deciding what you want to eat, but keeping it a secret from the waiter, and then wondering what happened to your order.
5. Release your expectations
The biggest thing that stops people from recognising signs, is when they hold certain expectations around it.
If you remember the scene in The Matrix where a cat walks by. It kind of goes “bzzzzt”, and then a similar-looking one walks by again. Trinity says it’s “a glitch in the Matrix”.
The glitch in the Matrix, is exactly what you’re looking for. The little something that cuts through the noise, breaks into your consciousness, and grabs your attention.
It’s the thing that makes you go, “Hm, that was a little odd. What *was* that?”
Signs are subtle. They whisper. They brush pass you in the crowd. They tap you on the shoulder and run off. It’s UP TO YOU to be paying attention.
The movies have led us to expect that signs, our purpose, our calling, whatever, make their appearance in big, dramatic ways. But it’s the movies, and it’s called dramatization. Show business is about being larger than life. Entertain, or the audience snoozes.
In our lives, however, there is no big booming external voice, no swelling score, no giant red arrows, no spotlights pointing to the situation going, “THIS IS A SIGN!”
That comes from paying attention. To all your internal and external worlds.
Granted, there are sometimes big, dramatic signs, but those tend to be be Wake-Up Missives, and personally, I’d prefer not to let things get to that point 😉
So try asking for a sign and let me know how it goes. Do you have your own method for asking for signs?
P.S. A couple more posts in the Sign Series: It’s a Sign! (Not), Signs & Decisions, and Wake-up Missives.
Did you ever have times when you hadn’t the vaguest idea what options you had? Even when those options were staring at you right in the face. Or you got into a state where you weren’t even thinking of getting out of it. You lacked trust in yourself, doubted your intuition, and may have even shut it down.
I definitely did, and it became difficult to spot signs, even when they were showing up. It was also tough because I wasn’t the asking type (meaning making requests to the Universe, praying etc).
Wake Up! Missives
Luckily for us, the Universe doesn’t give up on us, and sends “Wake Up!” Missives when we really need them. These Missives are like an emergency alert system – something in your life goes, “HEY, pay attention!”
Wake-up Missives can be a bit of a shock to say the least. What I’d experienced was closer to, “Wake Up Your F❤❤❤ing Idea!” as we say in Singlish (one of my favourite expressions!). These Missives usually came when I was:
- being on auto-pilot and not being the conscious driver of my life
- staying in my comfort zone even though I was unhappy
- making unhappy compromises or settlements
- being in denial about what I really wanted
A little story…
A loooong time ago, I worked in an Internet company, and it was hard work, but I’d reached a point where I loved most of my colleagues, I knew what I needed to do, and the workload had finally become manageable.
Except, my heart simply wasn’t in it.
Every day, I day-dreamt about going back to film & TV, OR going to Japan. Thing is, both options didn’t make any logical sense. The first offered less pay and longer hours. The second, I didn’t even know what I would do in Japan!
Still, I convinced myself I’d stay in it… build a nestegg and then pursue one or both of those things. It’s what smart people do, right?
Or so I thought, until I got a Wake-Up! Missive. By the way, these Missives are like Howlers in Harry Potter – ignore them for too long, and they go berserk on you.
One of the benefits of being an avid journaller, you get to look back. One day:
I saw a cab coming out the wrong way from Kent Road. ARGHS! This must be a sign! But, sign of what? That my current life is going in the wrong direction? That my thoughts are going in the wrong direction? What?!!? I so do not get it… tho’ it’ll probably be blindingly clear in hindsight.
Three days later:
I saw another car going in the wrong direction on a one-way street last night!!!! Immediately after I left work. Jeez. It almost caused an accident! This seriously must be some sort of sign… I have to do my cards tonight! 🙁
Six months later, I quit my job, with nothing proper lined up (not saying this is for everyone, it’s important to do things *your* way), went on a roller-coaster of film/TV jobs.
In the span of 20 months, I moved from Singapore to Hong Kong (and back), travelled to Cannes on business (one of my dreams!), worked on several film projects, where I discovered both Absolute Heaven and Absolute Hell.
It was a very unsettling time, the highs and lows were extreme. Very stressful for me – I’m always telling the Universe: drama-free life, please.
This crazy period ended with me falling really ill, getting stuck in bed for a week (very bad by my usual standard of health), and nursing a broken heart to boot. NOT what I had expected when I chose to follow my Wake Up Missive.
At that point, the only thing I was sure of – even though I was doing something I supposedly loved, what I was doing didn’t really align to the life I wanted.
Somewhere along the way, I had surrendered myself and what I wanted, to pursue this dream. Hence, sick and broken-hearted. Time to find ANOTHER way.
After I recovered, I found a job that I stayed in for more than 3 years (LONG for me). Sure, there were difficult times in between when I occasionally considered homicide 😉 but this job gave me the opportunity to travel to some major film festivals & markets (another dream), and I also met several beautiful souls I’m lucky to call my friends now. It also laid the foundation to make my Japan dream come true. (Yay!~)
Clearly, Wake Up Missives don’t guarantee a smooth ride, but you’re definitely going to get a lot out of them. It was an intense period of lessons and insights, and am so grateful for having gone through it. Not funny at that time though!
My Missives showed up when I was in a fear-based state for too long but they were ultimately only a catalyst for changes. I still had to do the work, but recognising the wake-up call made me start thinking about what I wanted and valued.
And that’s all you need.
Wherever you are right now, is the perfect starting point. The further away you live from your innermost desires, the less the Universe is able to conspire with you to create what you want.
If you feel completely out of touch with your intuition, it can feel difficult to start your explorations.
Try this: Take baby steps, and start re-connecting with the Universe. Start a dialogue with your Guides (speak it out loud, write, pay more attention etc), and ask for assistance. Keep your senses on alert for anything that comes up. Wake Up! Missives won’t be too difficult to notice because they are by nature surprising/shocking 😉
Did you ever get out-of-the-blue and weird incidents that you realise now were signs/wake up missives? What impact did they have on you? What was happening in your life at that time? I’d love to hear about it!
P.S. There are a few other posts in the Sign Series: It’s a Sign! (Not), Signs & Decisions, and How to Ask For Signs.
When you know what you want, and aren’t afraid to take the next step, you probably don’t need any signs to urge you forward. The first time I read the line, “Leap, and the net will appear” in Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way, I was, stunned, is probably the right word. Wow, people do that?! Cos up till then, I’d mostly been very afraid to leap. I still am, occasionally, but it’s easier now 😉
The times in my life when I most wanted some signs were probably when I was in a dilemma about something. Perhaps that’s why I feel that signs tend to show up at different stages of the decision-making process.
Fear of Taking the Leap
When you’re having trouble deciding because you actually know deep down what you want, but it’s scary to take the leap, especially if there’s no way you can convince yourself with logic, and it seems illogical… this is the time to look out for subtle signs in your everyday life.
My own Soul Portrait session resonated deeply with me, so I was interested in learning more about it, but when the Practitioners course opened up, I was hesitant about signing up. There’s no obvious practical use for it, and on top of that, it was a big financial commitment. As you can imagine, all my self-doubts promptly kicked in as well.
Deep down, I badly wanted to do it. So I told the Universe, “If it was meant to be, I’d receive a sign before registration closed.” At that time, I was still a full-time English instructor, and the next day, one of my favourite students resurfaced after 3 weeks of absence, wearing a new silver bracelet. I noticed the words “Life is a journey… ” engraved on it, and couldn’t contain my curiosity about it. It turned out that the full engraving was “Life is a journey toward the guiding light.” *goosebumps!*
>>> Get curious, pay attention.
Too Many Options
This is when you have a buffet of options, and you can’t decide because you want it all. (It’s kind of a nice problem to have, no?)
You get signs, but they don’t seem to support any particular option. Instead, they sometimes support ALL the options. These made me think, “Oh, the Universe is testing me.” Completely untrue! I even used to complain, “Dear Universe, you’re not helping!” It was *forever* before I learnt what was going on.
When you’re actively exploring options, and saying “I want to do this!”, “Oh and this!”, “And this too!”, and then taking action on every single option, you’re saying to the Universe that these are all the things you want. As a result, the signs/synchronicities for ALL of them appear, because the Universe is just delivering your order.
There are times when being in this mode is great – as long as you’re comfortable and happy juggling the different paths. Stay open to the different signs and synchronicities that come your way. Enjoy them!
However, when you feel overwhelmed by the options, and you actually *want* to choose a path, narrow things down temporarily. At this point, it’s not even about the signs anymore.
Give yourself the permission and energy to pursue each option for a period of time. It can be for a day, half a day, or one week, whatever suits the situation. Tell yourself (and the Universe) all the other options are “on hold”.
Observe and look within as you experiment with each temporary choice. You could find it’s not what you expected, or that you’re really dealing with a fear of leaping – the multiple options are just egoic smokescreen. You may discover the ONE thing you want more than anything else. OR you may realise that you’re actually happy not to decide at the moment, and it was some external “should” making you think you need to choose!
It can be hard to close the door on some things (it’s a struggle for me), but saying ‘no’, or even ‘not now’, can bring you clarity. Ultimately, it’s up to us to decide. There are multiple ways to get to our destinations – picking one way doesn’t mean that the other options are automatically cancelled out.
>>> Do the options you *love*
+ Look within and trust yourself.
These signs are the easy and fun ones. They show up and support your decision, in the form of synchronistic meetings, introductions, things falling into place. They make you go, “I knew it!” You feel the Universe giving you a high five and saying, “Hey, nice job, keep going!” They are usually pretty obvious, and you feel like you’re really in the flow and there’s wonderful momentum to it all.
That’s not to say everything is always smooth or goes perfectly, but you generally have a sense that you’re on Your Path and you chug along at your own pace in spite of any doubts and insecurities, and take the next step.
>>> Enjoy the high five!
To learn about how signs work in your life, take a trip down memory lane. Think of times when:
1. Things were flowing smoothly – go back to the decision points (and before) that led to them. Recall especially those decisions that were 50/50. You feel, “I’m so glad I decided to ____ because if not, I wouldn’t have _____.”
2. On paper, something looked perfectly good and logical and made total sense, but somehow you chose not to go that way. Now, you think, “I’m so happy I didn’t ______ because look how that turned out!”
In those situations, were there any moments or incidents that tipped you over into pursuing those opportunities (or giving them up)? What was your state of mind? How were you feeling? Were there any particular symbols?
With this exercise, we’re looking out for any particular symbols and patterns that tend to show up in your life. Let these questions stew for a bit, and see if anything pops up. If not, it’s completely okay too. It’s never too late to start noticing. What came up for you? 🙂